Leaving. Finally Leaving.

Next two weeks were beyond hectic and stressful. There were MILLION of things to take care of. Jimmy and I went to a lawyer and signed the papers to file. He wanted legal custody and we agreed on shared physical. Legal did not mean much to be since, like Max said, it could be changed easily if there is a reason.

We involved kids as much as we could.  We explained them the process, we asked them who they wanted to live with (both parents and one night grandparents). We took time for kids to go through their toys and clothes so they make decisions on what to keep where.

Those two weeks... were not busy. I took days off work even though I was out for two weeks. I could not add work to my current stress level. Jimmy was going back and forth between "I hate you, I want you to get cancer and die" (in front of Kyra) to another extreme "Please come back and I will go to dr and take medication and will go to counseling".

I made a decision on Rosedale and for those two weeks I was packing. I had NO idea how much stuff I had to go through. 10 years of life can not be just thrown away. Stuff comes with it. A lot of sentimental stuff - clothes, kids things, my things, books, photo albums, all my scrapbooking.

We spent the last night together. We ate and played ball. From outside would not be able to tell that this family was on the verge of breaking. But it was.

We agreed that I would have the kids Wednesday 6pm to Saturday 6pm (or time I have to go to work while I work in Melting Pot), Jimmy would have them Saturday 6pm to Tuesday 6pm and his parents Tuesday 6pm to Wednesday 6pm. All of us would let kids come over to other houses if they want to.

Let the new life begin!!!!

Going Home

Not Cool. Time with my parents always fly by. Oh, how do they say? Time flies when you have fun. We did not travel that much as the previous trip but we spent a lot of time TOGETHER.

The only different this time was that I was getting back to kids and what seemed like future partner/friend. My Mom said I was happy leaving them this time. Obviously, to miss them but still, happy.

Initially, after about 10 days being there, I did not hear a word from Jimmy. Not how you got to your parents, not how your vacation is going. NONE. Then, all of a sudden, he contacted me and asked me to come back home earlier. may be a couple days. He said after I was gone, he realized how much he missed me. He wanted me to come back sooner. Ummm. Tickets were paid for, we had our plans. I see my parents so rare that I would take any additional day I can with them.

However, as always, it had to be Jimmy's way or no any other way. It made him mad when I said no and it made me sad that he did what he did - he took iTouched away from the kids so they could not talk to me. I was devastated. I did have fun with parents but I missed the kids badly. iTouches were the only way for me to talk to them and it was taken away from 3 of us.

On the way home in the train he kept calling/texting me to see if we would try more. If not, then I could not come into the house. It was ridiculous. They all were in DC getting ready for the baseball game and I was coming home to the empty house. As always, it put me in defensive mood where, again, as always, I was scared. Of not seeing the kids, of him yelling at me. Of everything.

Ruchi picked me up at the train station and funny thing? I forgot password to my car to get the key for the house. I always kept spare car and house key inside of my car. I forgot the password. I was out only for 2 weeks. I got the key from Jimmy's mom. It was nice being home but this home changed a lot while I was gone. They got ceiling patched, walls painted and new brown carpet put in. Did not look like the house I remembered.

Next day I went to work and when kids got home and I was on the way home, they both came out and waited for me outside. I got so many hugs and kisses! We all were super happy until Jimmy started complaining that he should have gotten attention before the kids since he was the spouse. ??? No, kids come first. He threw another fit and it was another last straw after taking kids iPods away and threatening me in the train. I was done.

Another Bike Ride - Kreva

First, I have to say it has been what? 6 months since I wrote anything in here. So much happened.. I have to finish my writings about my trip and then catch up on the rest of the life. So.. Where was I?

I am not sure how long this bike ride was - may be 10km? I remember how fresh the air felt, how I loved riding behind my parents and watch them from behind. I remember how bumpy the road got in a few places but we just kept on going.

I remember sitting on the bank of the river, eating sunflower seeds, looking at the water, watching parachute students jump out, watching all those boats and ships go by. It was so peaceful. I could sit like that for a very long time.

I love those quality times with my parents. I wish I could do it every weekend!

More Fun

So, my grandma came over. We played cards, ate then my Dad went upstairs. All we could hear was him moving the chair like crazy. We went upstairs to check on him and saw he was playing racing game aka run away from police game. My grandma looked and looked said "What, is it so difficult? Why don't you just do this or that?"
We all giggled because she was the one to never drive a car or even a bike, neither did she used a computer and it just looked easy but it was not. After she tried for a minute, she completely gave up. It was funny to us :)

Here we were having our last meal together. Our fav shishkibabs. Yum! My Dad is sooo good at manking them!

When we dropped my Grandma off, we drove back through Silicon Valley. It was a full moon and we thought of this shot. Pretty cool, huh?